Entangled between this Life and Reality

I feel like I'm too entangled between this life and reality that I'm unable to accept every change that society wants to plant into me. Maybe I couldn't adapt like people did. I see people moving forward by compromising on many natural things, but it's always hard for me to do that. I stick to my idea and standard, I'm kind of a stubborn person in many cases. I know I have lost a big deal, I have made very big compromises. But I want to undone all that to get my real and reformed self back. I used to feel more compassion for others, but today, I don’t have the same energy, either I'm too hurt and disappointed that I'm not playing any good part in helping others, or I'm simply going astray. It's hard to confirm my track or route.

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I remember Prophet Muhammad's (S.A.W.) statement in which he asked us to hold Quran and Sunnah tightly after him to save ourselves from getting misguided. I feel Quran has something alike too. Allah says in Quran that hold tight the rope of Allah and do not add disunity in it. But people have not held it tight. So, they all are going astray. They don't know the big storm that surrounds them. It's like a rope tied to a destiny intact, a sand and foggy storm is all around, no one can see anything, so the only way to reach the destination and safe haven is by holding the rope and following it to the end. The world is the same arena, there's evil and so many things which make us go astray. The only way to safeguard our path is through the power of Quran and Sunnah.

The reason why we should hate modernity.

There are many reasons why I hate modernity. People can call me a hypocrite, because yes I'm strict in many matters, it's okay if someone hates you for trying to be a pious person. I know I'm not perfect, I know I commit sins and have so many flaws, but that doesn't and shouldn't stop me from trying to be better.

Modernity is the root of the demolishment of our culture. Islam has boundaries, a normal mind would understand that everything should be done under a limit, hence the boundaries of our religion are the necessity. But modernity has coated people's minds with the ability of crossing these boundaries and not feeling the guilt. It's become so common now for men to hang out with na-mehram women, it's become so usual for women to appear with open hair in public. Yes you don't see any bad in it.

You believe that everything you do is right as long as you think from inside that you're not a bad person. You're totally wrong. You are going onto a path which has no positive end for your success. Whatever rules I apply, whatever I do, it's for myself, I can't force anyone except those who are under me, who are my responsibility. So I don't tell you to live like me, but I shall share how I live and manage life, because there are many people who seek practical solutions. My strictness is just as godliness. It's normal these days for a person to have been into few relationships before marriage. There's no guilt anymore, there's no sign of shame. Hence I fear this society, that it may spoil me too. There are a number of reasons behind these things, but the truth is that no one is willing to change or even care.

The people who care, they find a way to save themselves. Others just keep going with the flow like a dead fish. Believe me when I say you're blind and have no mind at all. I'm so tired and disappointed from this society. We live and we play a role in this society, each one of us has some sort of contribution in this society, either it's positive, or it's bad. Our way of living, talking and everything we do is a kind of contribution to our environment. Our actions deeply influence this world. This life is not a playground, it's a battlefield. You are my responsibility and I'm yours, this is the reality. We all are each other's responsibility. I can't display or express my grief for the mankind, we have left neither any humanity nor unity. We have left neither ethics nor determination. May Allah guide us all, but the truth is that God help those who (try to) help themselves. Allah said in Quran that He doesn't change the condition of a nation unless they change themselves. Your fate is in your hands now! Peace.

Listen very carefully! Nobody cares at all!

Listen and understand very carefully. Nobody cares if you study or not, nobody cares if you do something for your future or not, nobody cares if you are happy or not, nobody cares if you earn something for yourself or not, nobody cares if you are in trouble or not. As long as you will keep them happy and be available for them, they will be satisfied. They don't care if you keep doing something for them and not for yourself. When you'll stop living for them but for yourself, you'll start seeing their angry faces. Everyone wants to shake hands with a rich and happy man, but as soon as he falls, they won't care to help him in any way possible, they will pretend like they never knew him.

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This is how the world thinks, this is what's going to be, sooner or later we all are going to experience it, this is a mean world we live in, hence we all must keep our expectations on the line and never disappoint ourselves by their behavior. It's upto us if we want to be one of them, or want to be better than them. It's upto us. But understand that working on yourself and building a future is very important, no one is going to help you, you will have to help yourself always. There's a mean face of everyone. Don't expect goodness from others. You must prepare yourself for the worst.

Problems are a part of life, learn to be strong

Fate doesn't take your permission before putting troubles into your life. You can't prepare yourself for anything before it's start. But true optimism and spirituality can help you stand your ground at the sudden shocks. Life is not a predictable thing, sudden incidents are a big part of it. Every day will be the basis of another lesson, you never know what's going to come next. Let's pray for our well being, let's pray to Allah for always being a beacon for us in the darkness and in our falls. Surely the success of this world and the hereafter is impossible without His help. Let's not forget who we are!

Allama Muhammad Iqbal, an inspiration for all

I am a big fan of Allama Muhammad Iqbal, I love his poetry and I can't explain the reason of it. I love literature and good material to read. I actually praise the beauty of passion in their words, like how they describe the whole book length in few lines, how they manage to give a strength and taste in their writings that fill your heart with knowledge and spiritual energy.

I'm an amateur writer myself, I know the passion that lies beneath the words written by a writer, sometimes a writer is unable to have much and appropriate vocabulary to define his heart's condition, that's one of the worst feelings ever. A writer always wants his readers to understand his message and that his writings keep spreading all the way, he always wants more and more people to get benefit of them. I'm a great fan of writers, especially of Allama Iqbal, I am a young student of his teachings, I may never be able to write and explain things like him, I may never know how to put and fill the knowledge of books and libraries into just few summarized words. I highly adore those people who have the hold on vocabulary and can explain their wisdom in precise and accurate words, I can just be called an interpreter if compared to them.

There's so much wisdom, knowledge and my most beloved thing; spirituality, in books and poetry. I wish I could record things like them too. I write short posts, articles, quotations, poetry, song lyrics and movie themes. Most of this material is randomly posted online or stored in a hard drive, I wish I could give them a shape and make the material available to everyone who's a student and got thirst for knowledge and spirituality. One feeling that really melts a writer's heart is when he is able to completely describe the accurate facts of his heart at that moment. I feel bad that I wasted few hundred posts by posting them online, there will be no revision of them, some may have read them but no one else will in the future, this is a heart breaking fact for me.

I still have a great desire of writing and publishing at least one book full of knowledge and my life derivatives. Education is a very important thing, not every knowledge and wisdom is available via online resources, there's million times more knowledge in books than at internet libraries. One must make books his companion till his death bed, they teach you how to live and think, one must always have the best collection of books. Iqbal said something very wonderfully through his poetry which totally took my heart:

اگر چاہوں تو نقشہ کھینچ کر رکھ دوں
مگر تیرے تخیل سے فزوں تر ہے، وہ نظارہ

As a human, I have an issue of having a proper source of income all the time, writing doesn't earn you handsome amount these days, so it's the top most reason that I don't and can't spend most of my time in writing and reading, otherwise I have a great thirst for these things. I want to improve my English and Urdu vocabulary, I want to learn how to have a hold onto words and their choices, I don't want to be just an online writer with mainstream data. I need to find a way to make my posted and saved content available in a format that would be accessible by people at all platforms, may Allah give me the chance and strength, ameen.

I feel so good when I write, I wish I had that much time and assets to support my passion. Someone reads or not, I write, I shall always write, this makes me internally happy, this brings some peace in my heart. Knowledge brings me spirituality, and spirituality is my strength, I write when I'm spiritual. If anyone has some sort of arrangement method as a suggestion for me so that I could utilize my data in the best way possible, then it'll be greatly appreciated if you come forward with your opinion and idea, I'll be thankful.

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Is there any peace or satisfaction in this world?

A part of me wishes to have a good life partner, but another part of me wants to live and die alone. There's no eternal peace in this world, now you have it and the next second it's gone. There's no peace without losses, you can't stay happy or content with life always, you will always lack of something (love, peace, justice).

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Whenever a war is fought and lands are captured, men are slaughtered or enslaved, while women are captured and played like an object, that's the most inhumane action. In this era, maybe women in some civilized societys are more secure than they were in the past, but still there's injustice and barbaric actions taking place, if we don't suffer then it doesn't mean that it doesn't happen, people are going through it, even right now!

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I don't want my God to punish someone I love for my mistakes, the mistakes I made, and the mistakes that I'll make. Indeed Allah isn't our enemy, He is our creator, He loves us, we are our own cruel enemy, but I fear that what if I may not be able to pass a trial? I fear it's results on my family, on my belief and everything. Even innocents get raped and so many other things, I don't want to be in that position. I don't want to be the father, husband or brother of someone who lost her dignity, I won't be able to live, I won't be able to see or feel her pain, I won't be able to .... I fear.

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May Allah protect us all, all humans of every religion, because it's against the moral of humanity to be such vicious with anyone no matter what's the religion. Islam tells us to show humanity to all people, therefore we must care for all victims of life. Ya Allah protect us!

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I have a question for you, for all the men (please show this post to your male family members). Will you marry a rape victim when the whole society torments her? If not then why not? You may have sisters, daughters and mother too, they could be a victim if God wanted, so would you care for them then? Your answer will prove if you've any humanity left.

Should we learn to adapt with life?

I think that I'll also have to learn how to lie, how to cheat and be dishonest, how to be tricky with people, how to ignore someone, how to make commitments and not fulfill them, how to be sweet from outside and opposite from the inside, how to play family politics, how to stay silent on injustice, how to be sweet with people when I need their help, how to exclude people from my life who I don't need anymore, how to be selfish, how to take advantage of others' situation, how to use one's depression into my own advantage, etc. I'll probably have to learn many things to survive in this cheap world!

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I've seen and met people with such skills, a normal person wouldn't be able to judge them without getting deceived thrice in a row, people have evolved so much with time. Of course I'm not admiring such people, I'm talking about the reality, the way people live, the way they prefer to be called clever due to these tactics, they think deception is an art and skill. They're wrong, this is a temporary world, everyone will be accountable for what they do on the day of resurrection (Akhirah), better to prepare now!

Don't give your children too much

Don't give your children too much, don't provide them everything they ask for, they need to learn the formulas of life, they need to understand that you can't get whatever you want in your life, they need to be dealt in strict ways and matters, they need to understand that life is hard. These are some things that parents hesitate to teach their children, they think that it's the time of joy and no strictness, but actually this is the right time to teach them, otherwise when they grow up in soft and comfortable environments thinking that life is going to be full of happiness and pleasures, they fall on the very first steps, it takes a lot of them to learn the reality, but manys don't make up like others, manys don't rise or adopt like others, not everyone is that much powerful.

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So, you may give your children the good time of their life, but remember that without hardness they won't be learning the real way to live and move forward; that's survival. Also, if you give your children a lot, then remember to tell them that they don't deserve any of it, invoke humility and a sense of gratitude in them, tell them to be thankful to their God for such blessings, for anything can be taken away in any glimpse of moment. Save them from being ruined, save them from getting destroyed.

Life of a star or celebrity

Life of a star or celebrity is not that easy as it's written on Wikipedia, it takes a lot of patience and hard-work for reaching that stage, the real burden lies within the heart, public doesn't know how much it takes to build up a career and profile like that, only the person knows.

Learn to help others while they're going through a problem

Maybe that problem isn't big for you but it can be for someone else, maybe you've become strong in many cases but some are not yet strong enough. It's easy for a healthy person to walk and run, but it's difficult for an injured person to do the same. If you see someone having a bad time while going through any problem which may seem normal or daily dose to you, then don't make fun of them, because you've never been into their shoes, they have a different dealing with life. Sometimes our current problems don't destroy us, it can be the constant result of our old self based battles that could be damaging us internally. So help if you want to, but don't criticize, don't break the person who's already broken. Salam & Peace!