Parents should keep check and balance on their children in every matter until they're married. It's included as a responsibility for a parent to guide and monitor his/her children. Excessive internet use is destroying young minds but still parents don't care. Unfortunately my social media circle just revolves around youth too, hence I can't convey them this message. I believe that even I should have not been allowed to use internet freely. No one should be given the liberty (that some people call privacy) to practice things in free-space, unless they're totally independent and married. Maybe one day people will think about it, now they're busy into expanding businesses and providing their children with a better future. Internet and liberty have ruined me too in many ways, hence I want no one else to face things alike me. May Allah help us all. Ameen.
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A piece of advice to every future parent
A piece of advice to all parents and everyone who is going to be a father/mother one day: keep your daughters in a restricted manner and environment, keep them away from all the harm, tell them what's wrong and what's right, tell them the value of respect in society, spy on them, see what are their activities and who do they spend time with, check their cell phones and other devices in a friendly manner, be frank with them and make them share their every secret with you.
The world is so cruel, they should know that, any guy can start destroying your daughter's life and she would be innocent enough to let him continue, it's better to educate your daughters at young age. Save your dignity and of your daughter, keep her in detention mode unless she gets adult and mature enough to understand these things. This is a necessary element for saving your daughter's morals, spirits and life. Let's help each other improve!
Parents want their children to live like them
Nowadays, parents are trying to make their children do things like they used to do in that age. But everything has changed, new ways of living have been developed, so it'll be unfair to pressurize someone to live with the old standards.
Some things, like culture, never change and shouldn't too, but the rest can be given a thought. We as humans don't always do the ordered things well, that's why parents should first listen to what their children say before making any assumption about their rightness and wrongness. Be frank with them, learn what they meant, maybe you are not seeing things by their view, maybe you just know half of the story. Honestly, you can't even make yourself do everything that you intend to do, so give yourself a break from pulling the triggers.
Frequent enforcement can cause your child's spirituality and confidence to break, stop it before it's too late. Even if your child is on the wrong and you know it, then instead of judging him/her as a sinner take him/her as an immature person who's trying to grow and learn his/her own ways, offer him/her help and guidance, that's all you can do. Give your children a good character, the rest is optional and onto their fate and choice.
Some things, like culture, never change and shouldn't too, but the rest can be given a thought. We as humans don't always do the ordered things well, that's why parents should first listen to what their children say before making any assumption about their rightness and wrongness. Be frank with them, learn what they meant, maybe you are not seeing things by their view, maybe you just know half of the story. Honestly, you can't even make yourself do everything that you intend to do, so give yourself a break from pulling the triggers.
Frequent enforcement can cause your child's spirituality and confidence to break, stop it before it's too late. Even if your child is on the wrong and you know it, then instead of judging him/her as a sinner take him/her as an immature person who's trying to grow and learn his/her own ways, offer him/her help and guidance, that's all you can do. Give your children a good character, the rest is optional and onto their fate and choice.
Warning for parents
It's almost very easy to carry out immoral acts online, everything is just a click away. Parents don't even bother to keep a check on their children, they're not aware of the kind of activities that are being carried out online, they don't know what their sons are doing, they don't know what their daughters have been doing, everyone is free. I don't think that any parent will be reading this, this was actually their responsibility to guide and keep a watch on their children as they must be immature and could fall for things which would be harmful for them, Islam says that it's parents' duty to educate their children, this kinda education is far different than what we get from institutes.
Such people who perform immoral acts online, may God never allow them to marry a decent person, a person who stayed pure for a pure spouse, the one who has violated in a row doesn't deserve a pure soul. These words may be harsh but it should happen as Quran said that good men are for good women and good women are for good men, in the same way, bad men are for bad women and bad women are for bad men. When someone performs a vulgar act, that cost them their dignity, then there's no way they could have a dignified life ahead.
I wish I could tell what kind of things the youth is doing online, they're not children anymore, internet educated them in a bad way, they know things which they shouldn't have known. If you want an instance then go to any social media platform where youth is available, see it with your own eyes, there's no culture or constraint for them left. I feel sad for them, but I feel anger for those parents who didn't prove themselves worthy to be a parent, your duty wasn't just to bring them into this world, it was also on you to teach them how to live! Alas!
Such people who perform immoral acts online, may God never allow them to marry a decent person, a person who stayed pure for a pure spouse, the one who has violated in a row doesn't deserve a pure soul. These words may be harsh but it should happen as Quran said that good men are for good women and good women are for good men, in the same way, bad men are for bad women and bad women are for bad men. When someone performs a vulgar act, that cost them their dignity, then there's no way they could have a dignified life ahead.
I wish I could tell what kind of things the youth is doing online, they're not children anymore, internet educated them in a bad way, they know things which they shouldn't have known. If you want an instance then go to any social media platform where youth is available, see it with your own eyes, there's no culture or constraint for them left. I feel sad for them, but I feel anger for those parents who didn't prove themselves worthy to be a parent, your duty wasn't just to bring them into this world, it was also on you to teach them how to live! Alas!
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