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Showing posts with label nature. Show all posts
Showing posts with label nature. Show all posts

It is our nature to want more and get tired from the old

It's our nature as a human that we get tired from everything after some time. When we want something, we crave for it. But after getting it, we forget it's value and our craze to gain it, unless it's lost again. The same thing happens with marriages these days. Husband and wife start hating or disliking each other after a while, the duration can be years or months. When you see the same person everyday, the spiritual energy of that person for you is lost. But when you meet a person after a long time, you'll feel the spirituality. It's our nature. There can be many reasons behind couple fights, but mostly this is the one.

They both actually don't understand that why they fight. There are solutions to this, like go and spend some time alone, or ask your wife to do complete PARDA (cover) in public. People will think of it as a false theory, but it's more effective than anything else. If a woman covers herself, nobody can see her, even her husband. She'll become something noble for her husband. This nature of humans is applied in a tradition of marriage which I won't tell. Obviously people don't understand those traditions, but some wise old fellows must have thought about them and hence added.

To the couples, if your spouse stays more angry, try applying this technique. Insha-Allah your marriage will continue till the end of your life. It's your duty to make efforts for your marriage to work and progress. Do not give up on each other. No one is perfect, learn to compromise on your ego and forgive small mistakes of others. Relationships continue only with compromises. You shouldn't expect perfection in every scenario of life. Getting attracted towards someone else is due to the same reason, they are not always with you, hence their spirituality is high for you.

We expect too much from humans, we shouldn't

We expect too much from humans even while knowing that no human can ever be perfect, and sometimes we hate ourselves just because we couldn't deliver certain outputs according to our expectations, we forget that we are included in the list of imperfect humans, we shouldn't expect much from ourselves too.

Human nature

We should accept our nature as a human and do our best to live with it. It is our nature to get attracted towards beauty and repel from ugliness, it's racism, Islam doesn't allow it, but it is our nature, we always have to act against it in order to obey Islam. It is our nature to be mean and not think of anyone else except ourselves, many of us can overcome this nature and be generous. It is our nature to worry about something and not forget it, it's not always easy to control that feeling. We have to live with ourselves, we don't have another option, but we have to obey Islam all the time, even if it's against our own nature, and maybe that's the real test from Allah, that we are asked to act against our own nature.

We are attracted towards the opposite gender, it is our nature, but Islam doesn't allow us to be with a na-mehram, means we are asked to act against our nature. There are many things, as from liking someone to have feelings about them, which are a part of our human nature but are forbidden by Islam for us. We have to fight with our own-self in order to please Allah. So many of us who think they have gotten a dirty mind; you don't have it, we all have it, you can change it, you can control yourself, we can't be perfect but we can keep trying, let it not go out of control and balance. There are many things I do as a person which aren't appropriate at all, I consider them bad, but sometimes I'm not able to control my nature from acting. So don't feel bad if you get such feelings, it's a test, just don't stop fighting, Allah knows everything, He knows your struggle. Salam and Peace