I have seen some women in my life who don't respect and obey their husbands but still expect their children to respect and obey them. I know someone very personally whose children aren't very obedient to her just because she contains an abusive tongue and is not polite to anyone, she likes fighting and sometimes she threatens her children by saying that if they didn't obey her or say anything in response to her actions (like talking back) then they all will go to Jahanum (hell).
God knows the best whether she is right or not, but I feel like parents should also respect and treat their children with gentleness, you shouldn't expect 'respect' from your children if you don't respect them, you get what you do. If you violate all the rules, abuse your children, accuse them everyday, then you can't expect a good attitude from their side. Parents nowadays do take benefit of this, they threaten their children by telling them that they'll go to hell if they did say anything in response, but they don't focus on what they're doing, will you not be answerable to Allah just because you're a father/mother? As a son, as a human, I feel that there is a limit to everything. After the limit, there can be some bad consequences. Your children are humans too, even you can't tolerate the pressure or talking from their side, and still they bear your injustice, but it won't be forever, one day or very soon enough, they will answer back, because there is a limit of control, it will be better if you start taking care of your 'Akhirat' and current attitude.
